DVUK work tirelessly to provide support to survivors and hope to individuals who have experienced domestic and emotional abuse.
It’s important for us to continue to raise awareness about how people are affected by domestic violence.
Here are some of the facts:
Myth Number 1: Domestic Violence is only physical.
This is far from the truth. Unfortunately, domestic violence doesn’t stop at just physical abuse. Sexual, emotional/psychological and verbal abuse are all tactics used by the perpetrators to control their partners.
Myth Number 2: Domestic Violence only affects women.
Abuse can happen to anyone. It’s directed at women, men, children and the elderly, and is not exclusive to one social class or ethnic group.
Myth Number 3: “It’s their fault for not leaving.”
Being abused is never the victims fault. A number of different factors can inhibit a person from leaving the abuser; family and social pressure, financial restrictions, children, fear.
Rather than being stigmatised for being subjected to abuse, we need to demonstrate hope and reassurance that other options are available.
No one has to put up with domestic violence and support functions exist to help facilitate safety when the individual decides to leave.
Myth Number 4: “I was stressed and you made me angry!”
Abuse is not the victims fault. The abuser is completely responsible for their own actions, and nothing warrants or excuses domestic violence. The abusers will often try and push blame onto their partners (another example of psychological abuse).
Myth Number 5: Domestic Violence is a private matter, you shouldn’t get involved.
This is why some people feel they can’t tell anyone about what they are currently experiencing. If you think that a person is in danger, and any children he/she may have are also, we would suggest contacting the police.
It’s also important to show them where they can seek assistance(specialist support organisations and helplines)
Domestic violence is a crime, and we have a responsibility to speak out against it.
When we raise more awareness and speak of hope more and more women will have the strength to leave.
Further Reading: I’m worried about someone else (Women’s Aid Website)
Footnote: If you are in an abusive relationship and requires an urgent response or needs in-depth support please contact the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247, the Men’s Advice Helpline on 0808 801 0327 or The National LGBT Helpline(Broken Rainbow) on 0300 999 5428.
You could also find support organisations using our ONLINE DIRECTORY
it may be a crime but the police do all they can to persuade you not to file a proper complaint.they do not enforce the law properly and seem to side with the abuser if he/she has family backing them.i was refused access to my home due to my ex husbands daughter lying to police called by me to defend me from violence threatened by her and her daughter. i was not listened to, and was made to leave.i was suffering from ptsd and she used it against me.
WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT
Its time to go
The famous last scene
In the final show
The Jekyll and Hyde that lives inside
Will always return
When you least expect it
All the love I gave you
The family we had
Will always stay with me
Will forever be sad
The demons inside you will never fade
The anger and violence
The life that YOU made
Dancing naked to the tune
Was still not enough
Nothing will be for you
Narcissist through and through
Stay away from women
Don’t steal their lives
Or maybe get the haram
And have nine wives
Nine wives to drag naked out of your bed
With blind fury and swearing
And smack them in the head
Scream for more alcohol
Like a man possessed
Then lie to everyone
That’s what you do best
No remorse or caring for what you have done
No conscience at all
Hope you thought it was fun
Took my home, my family
My dignity
No more could you take
Brought me down to my knees
Leave your child unattended
To fuck yourself up
Yes its all about your son
I wish him good luck
Then out of the blue
After all of our plans
The demon emerges
With his deadly hands
Dance naked little angel
Dance to the tune
Run away little angel
Demons will be back again soon
The woman that sat here
The one before me
On this very verandah
She just couldn’t see
Bashed to death by the hands
Of her crazy lover
She will never have the chance
To love another
This angel escaped with her life intact
Time to move on
Its the final act
She thinks of the words
That fill her head
You escaped with your life
YOU ARE NOT DEAD!!!!!!
When you least expect it
Slowly bit surely domestic violence is getting heard and reckonised “Rome weren’t built in a day”
Let’s stay strong and help the next victims
We can all do this together. May have bad days or good days but one day you the survivor’s will get your life back.
It’s never too late.
God bless
Xxxx