Although it can be very difficult, it’s important you try as much as possible to take care of yourself.
Here are 6 suggestions to consider if you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship.
- Realize that you are an important person: After being neglected, used and abused it is difficult to feel like an important human being. Try to recognize the good in yourself and the fact that you have rights. You deserve happiness, just as everyone does. Try to be assertive and strive to reach simple objectives. Although it sounds selfish, but within this context it’s always important to put yourself first on your road to recovery from emotional abuse.
- Make sure that you have someone to talk to: It always helps to have someone to talk through your issues with. Sometimes this can mean seeking professional help, or going to group therapy sessions with others who have been victims of domestic abuse or possibly in an emotionally abusive relationship. Even finding a close friend who can act as a non-judgemental sounding board can help out immensely. Being able to actually express yourself and get your experience with domestic abuse out in the open can help you move on.
- Know that other people see you as valuable: In many cases with domestic abuse, a person will feel like there is nowhere else to turn but to the person that was abusing them in the first place. Remember that there is always a support group, a friend or a family member that appreciates you. You will always have people to depend on, and there is always someone who sees you for who you really are, a person of value.
- Be patient with and give yourself time: It is not always the best idea to start off running on your journey to healing from the painful past experiences. Give yourself time before you get into situations that may remind you of that abusive relationship or even trying to get into another relationship. Try to remain vigilant in keeping distance from the person who has abused you. There is a chance you could get sucked back into the abusive relationship if you see the abusive partner before you are fully recovered and ready.
- Make sure that if children are involved you can come to an agreement: Part of getting out of an abusive relationship is protecting the rest of the family as well. This could involve putting out a court order for custody if you share children with the other person involved. Making sure that your kids are safe and able to heal with you is important, and with the law on your side you will most definitely be able to sleep better at night, knowing you and your children are protected from that person achieving custody or harming your kids.
- Try and ensure the process never repeats itself: Once you are healed emotionally and free of the relationship, you will be able to identify the signs of when a future relationship is beginning to turn abusive in nature. Make sure that you are never exposed to a situation of abuse again by removing yourself from the abusive relationship. Remember you have value and you do not deserve that kind of treatment.
In conclusion, you must fight to have an abuse free future.